| In this article, I am going to show you some things | | | | THEIR position. |
| that you can do to actually win your boss over to | | | | If you think I'm wrong, watch a few arguments and |
| YOUR way of thinking. These methods are tried and | | | | see how they turn out. |
| proven as they are taken from the Dale Carnegie | | | | Okay, so how do you go about avoiding arguments? |
| school of thought. | | | | There are 3 ways. |
| In this article we are going to cover the following | | | | 1. Listen - I know this sounds odd, but hear me out. |
| topics: | | | | There is no way to even know what the argument |
| 1. Be Interested In Other People | | | | is going to be about if you're not listening. Provided |
| 2. Avoiding Arguments | | | | that you're not the one instigating the argument |
| Let's start with number 1. | | | | (usually the boss does this) you are going to need to |
| Look, we both know that, for the most part, you're | | | | hear what he is saying to know HOW to respond. |
| at your job to get a pay check and nothing else. | | | | This way, you'll have all the information you'll need to |
| Maybe, if you're lucky, there are a couple of people | | | | give a rational response. |
| there who you work with who you like, but your | | | | 2. Don't Throw Fuel On The Fire - One of the worst |
| boss is probably not one of them. | | | | things you can do is respond with something like, |
| This is where you're going to really have to work | | | | "That's one of the stupidest ideas I have ever |
| hard...especially if you'd rather see your boss boiled in | | | | heard". That is only going to get your boss more |
| oil. If you haven't done so already, show some | | | | worked up. I'm not saying you have to agree with |
| interest in your boss. Ask about his family. Ask about | | | | him. Just don't be confrontational. It won't lead to |
| his hobbies. Ask him what he likes about working for | | | | anything good. |
| the company. | | | | 3. Flip The Script - This takes some skill, but it's very |
| If you can show genuine interest in your bosss life, | | | | effective. If your boss is totally out of control, flip |
| you very well may just win him over and get him off | | | | the script. In other words, stop him in his tracks by |
| your back. | | | | getting his attention. Usually this can be done by |
| It's certainly worth a try. | | | | saying his name, however you address him...Mr Jones, |
| Of course, if that fails, along with all my other | | | | whatever. Then, after you've gotten his attention, |
| suggestions (some bosses are hard heads) you're | | | | ask him to clarify what he's just said because you're |
| going to need to know your legal rights. | | | | having trouble following him. This will get him to slow |
| Avoiding Arguments | | | | down and speak in a more rational manner. But stay |
| Do you know why arguments never lead to any | | | | calm during the whole process. |
| good? It is because neither side wants to give in. | | | | By avoiding arguments, you can usually keep your |
| Given a topic where there are two differing opinions, | | | | boss calm enough to be tolerable. |
| each person is going to fight to the death to defend | | | | |